About Me
About Me & Origin Story
My Life’s Blueprint & The First Wall Of Transformation
In 1983, my first spiritual awakening handed me a clear blueprint: heal, grow, transform, and lead others to do the same.
By 1995, I launched experiential seminars designed to align individuals with their true living purpose and make those dreams real. While I easily guided participants to uncover their deepest desires, they struggled immensely to actually execute those changes.
I hit the aggressive, subconscious First Wall: Human Resistance to Change
This wall became the impetus for my first realm of change. I needed to decode the exact mechanism of action behind this resistance. I moved to Boulder, Colorado, and earned a Master’s in Counseling Psychology, specializing in Jungian, Archetypal, and Transpersonal Psychotherapy. I relentlessly investigated why transformation fails, viewing my own thoughts and the claims of others with radical skepticism. I refused to accept that we are meant to remain trapped in automatic, repetitive suffering.
A Twenty-Year Breakthrough & The Second Wall
For twenty years, I sought the underlying driver of all human transformation. In 2003, I finally uncovered the master cypher: acceptance. I engineered a precise set of somatic skills to dismantle our unconscious resistance, a system I named the Paradox Cure.
Once I integrated this radical acceptance into my practice, my clients achieved unprecedented, rapid breakthroughs. They escaped years of pain in just a few sessions. But as they healed, their momentum suddenly halted.
I hit the Second Wall: The Master Comfort Threshold (MCT)
This wall became the impetus for my second realm of change. I discovered that we each operate from an internal, subconscious homeostatic set-point. This threshold dictates our allowable limits for energy, pleasure, love, and wealth. The moment you exceed your established upper limit, your nervous system triggers painful somatic responses. It sounds an alarm that abundance is dangerous, driving self-sabotage to shed the excess.
To break this invisible biological chokehold, I developed the C.A.D.S. framework. This specialized architecture works with your inherent biological intelligences and superpowers. It expands your capacity and elevates your baseline so you sustain the life changes you truly want.
The Crucible & The Third Wall
I eventually cleared my schedule to fully dive into somatic expression. I immersed myself in Tantra and dedicated over thirty-five hours weekly to dancing Argentine Tango for nearly five years. But a guide must survive the most intense alchemical crucibles to truly lead others out of the dark.
In 2010, my life spiraled into an agonizing sixteen-year dark night of the soul. For eight of those years, I set aside my own needs to fiercely aid my partner in beating two terminal illnesses with absolute devotion. This era culminated in a catastrophic betrayal that drove me to the absolute brink of suicide.
I survived this darkness when I anchored into the profound neurological work of Dr. Joe Dispenza, turning daily torture into an ego-stripping catalyst. In this brutal crucible, I traded my judgments for pure observation, healed my deepest wounds, and fundamentally upgraded my personality. Yet, a final barrier remained.
I hit the Third Wall: The Hidden Sabotage of Relational Ecology
This wall became the impetus for my third realm of change. My unverified relational lens allowed my devotion to extract a catastrophic literal and energetic toll. I realized that relationship dynamics dictate your life success just as much as personal healing or biological optimization. Who you allow into your physical and energetic space alters your destiny. I integrated these profound, hard-won lessons, along with my extensive Tantric and relationship trainings, into an advanced relational framework: Grow Big Love.
Master-Level Architecture For Structural Change
The Life Choices Assessment
We often spend years trapped in intellectual agony over the future, ignoring our deeper biological intelligence that actually knows the way forward.
You do not need more time to think; you need to uncover the hidden selection criteria that your heart and soul are desperately trying to communicate.
In this powerful one-on-one session, I act as your co-investigator, guiding you to navigate through your intellectual anxiety and extract the navigational cyphers required to make your big life decisions with unshakeable confidence.
Uncover your authentic desires & Live life by YOUR design …
Read details on Life Choices Assessment™
I Release This by 9/1/26
The Master-Level Architecture
You are here because you want a life that actually works. You want permanent, structural change. If you are looking for a standard cheerleader or an emotional band-aid, I am not the guide for you.
But if you refuse to settle for the bare minimum of human existence, my practice is specifically built for you. I train you to achieve unprecedented results through a unique methodology offering distinct, master-level advantages:
- A Different Way of Thinking: We track down the hidden, hindering beliefs and dismantle the unverified interpretations holding your biology hostage, rewriting your foundational code.
- Operate From Higher Paradigms: I do not offer superficial behavioral modifications. I train you to change the underlying mechanisms to orchestrate permanent structural shifts in how your nervous system interacts with reality.
- Alignment With Biological Superpowers: I apply master-level strategies that account for your physical and energetic makeup. Every protocol leverages your inherent, untapped resources to work harmoniously together to fuel the profound life changes you command.
- Tested Experiential Processes: Your transformation is driven by proprietary, biological systems like the Paradox Cure and the C.A.D.S. Framework, engineered over four decades to create lasting structural change.
- Advanced Relational Alchemy: Through the Grow Big Love architecture, we install the precise discernment, boundary structures, and relational agreements necessary to transform your partnership into a Sacred Third Entity that accelerates your mutual evolution.
The C.A.D.S. Cypher Assessment
We are not meant to navigate the unknown through raw willpower and forceful resistance against our own biology.
You possess dormant biological superpowers that must be mapped before you can unlock your true momentum and travel the path you were destined for.
I engineered this free ten-question diagnostic tool to calculate your precise neuro-energetic archetype. This diagnostic equips you with the specific biological cyphers to work in harmony with your Master Comfort Threshold, optimize your foundational support, and begin your quest for lasting change.
Read details on C.A.D.S. Assessment
I Release This by 9/1/26
A Message To You, Dear Ones, That FEEL Life
To You Dear Ones That FEEL Life ...
WATCH!
Watch for the wise ones who point you to shine light on YOUR truth,
and you cry as they illuminate what was once dark.
LISTEN!
Listen for the elders who train you to whisper to your Soul,
and you resonate as they sing a song you hear in your heart of hearts.
SENSE!
Sense the perceptive ones who teach you to know your true Self,
and you laugh as they notice how you evade your magnificence.
REACH!
Reach for the leaders who implore you to seize the inner knowing you feel in your bones,
and you tremble as they loosen your grip on the lies you held so tight.
KEEP REACHING
There are those of us who wait — calmly alert, and alertly calm.
Some of us not so calm.
We poke and evoke, inform and transform.
We are really good at it!
And we are among you — the good ones!
But you must keep reaching,
Enough to stumble when you really want to find us.
And when you look, open your eyes — really wide.
Try a very cold shower, a dawning sun, or a lot of caffeine.
Stop eating for a couple of days.
Or be alone in nature for three — that will open.
And do the unexpected.
Start small.
Reverse your toilet paper roll.
Take a route to work you never take.
Eat what you never eat.
Watch what you never watch.
Go bigger.
Call the friend you never call.
Forgive that person you never forgave.
Say you are sorry to that person you didn’t.
Visit that person you never visit.
If you keep reaching, open your eyes wide, and do the unexpected,
You WILL stumble.
You HAVE to stumble!
You can only find us when you are not looking in the ways you always do.
If you look as you always look, you will find what you always find.
We, the good ones, are not found where you always look.
Why?
Silly! You would have already found us!
So reach.
So really reach.
Keep reaching.
Now open your eyes.
Open them really wide.
Do the unexpected.
Yes, you can start small.
But you may need to go bigger at some point.
And stumble.
You MUST stumble.
Really stumble!
Are you reaching?
Really reaching?
Oh. THERE!
Hi. I got you!