3 Pillars – The Realms for Change

I use the concept of PILLARS to provide an overview of the three realms that must be engaged to achieve successful change. The effectiveness of your engagement with each pillar determines your overall level of success.

Paradox Cure Overview

What drives all healing, growth and transformation …

As soon as you begin making any change, especially when pursuing deep-seated desires and dreams that align with your true self, all of what stopped you arises. These are your fears, hurts, wounds, and traumas — everything you are still clinging to through resistance. Continue reading to grasp this crucial concept.

When I knew my Living Purpose, I got the question of HOW to best heal, grow, and transform. After two decades of intensive exploration and seeking, I found the answer: ACCEPTANCE. Although deceptively simple, it has taken years to learn how to guide individuals through their resistance to achieve acceptance.

This comprehensive skill set and approach of acceptance is what I refer to as “The Paradox Cure (PC).” PC makes a huge difference in your ability to make any personal or life changes. Every change requires going beyond resistance and embracing acceptance.

Until we directly confront our resistance to our true selves, our bodies, emotions, sensations, hurts, wounds, fears, and learn to stop resisting and accept, we will continue to hinder and sabotage our efforts to make changes in ourselves and our lives.

By using Paradox Cure, I empower individuals to swiftly uncover and address what has stopped them everywhere in their lives.

The Paradox Cure Approach Offers

• UNSTUCK — Get unstuck in any area of life.
• MORE EFFECTIVE CHANGE — It enables you to make personal changes more quickly, effectively, with long lasting and meaningful results.
• BETTER KNOW YOUR OWN NEEDS — It teaches you how to better listen to your body and understand what it wants and needs to heal, grow, evolve, empowering you to have a better direction to act on your own healing path.
• INNER COMPASS — it teaches you to know and be able to use your innate inner compass, where you can know what is true for yourself independent of others, and not be deceived by your thinking.  Our head tricks us and lies to us, but we rarely know when.  However, your body always tells you your truth – learn how to listen!
• UNDERSTAND HOW YOU SABOTAGE YOUR OWN CHANGES — it trains you how to recognize your resistance to change, including the changes you want.  This resistance sabotages your efforts to make important changes both within yourself and your life.
• GET MORE EFFECTIVENESS OUT OF ANY MODALITY, APPROACH — you learn how to be more effective using any modality of healing, growth and transformation — whether you are a practitioner or a client or participant.

After 20 years of research and inquiry into what guides all healing, growth and transformation, I discovered that it is ACCEPTANCE. While it may seem simple, how we resist is complex, full of nuance, pitfalls, misdirection and challenges.

However, once you understand how you resist change and learn to better accept yourself, making personal changes in your thoughts, actions, and speech becomes MUCH easier and more accessible.

I offer various individual and group trainings, as well as courses that delve into this vast body of knowledge and skill sets.

Awakening What Is Needed To Change Something

Whatever you desire in your life that you currently lack necessitates some form and extent of change. It could be as simple as switching to a different brand of soap or as significant as running a marathon in under 10 hours, and currently weigh 350 pounds. 

Even minor changes might involve altering numerous personal habits to consistently perform new actions every day for 40 days, but you’ve never even attempted those new actions for a single day.

“Wake Up Your Life” is about awakening something within you that is currently dormant, enabling you to make a change. You may need to awaken more energy, heightened awareness, increased attention and focus, the ability to establish boundaries and say no to people you never could before, or embrace and engage in behaviors you previously only rejected.

People hire coaches, therapists, counselors, or attend workshops, seminars, retreats — any type of personal growth professional or experience — to achieve changes they have not been able to make on their own.

While many factors contribute to making most changes, I have discovered direct and effective strategies to facilitate this process.

1 — Start with uncovering what you truly want — Living Purpose

Wake Up Your Life is about achieving greater clarity, alignment, and direction in life with what you really want and who you truly are . When working with anyone, my first step is to uncover their true desires. This involves delving deep within oneself, a process to uncover a part of their Living Purpose. For more information, refer to the Living Purpose section.

Surprisingly, most people do not know what they genuinely want; they only know what they think they want. I use experiential processes to help individuals reach this profound inner knowing.

2 — Discover who you really are — Inner Authority

Waking up your life is also about coming to know who you are at a deeper level.  This is a profound self-discovery, delving into your deeper truths and cultivating the ability to pursue your desires, needs, and dreams without being bound by the expectations, demands, and beliefs you unconsciously and consciously acquired.

Inner Authority

This is about how we think and act in the world, how we learn, and how we come to know ourselves — all various aspects of our thought processes, actions, and self-perception.  In cultivating inner authority, we come to know more of who we really are.

Within this realm of Inner Authority, you learn:

• CRITICAL THINKING SKILLS — to identify misinformation, resist self-deception, and confidently assess the accuracy of information
• SELF-CONFIDENCE — in your self-worth and authenticity
• SETTING & MAINTAINING BOUNDARIES — The ability to set and maintain boundaries, effectively ending past attempts by others to manipulate you into doing what they want. Often, what others desire is not in your best interest and can be detrimental to your well-being.
• DISCERNMENT WITH DISINFORMATION & DECEIT — How to recognize and avoid other supposed authorities who engage in deceit, disinformation, and highly manipulative and unethical practices to sway you away from staying true to your inner knowing and authority
• INNER COMPASS — Your powerful and innate ability to know what is right for you — your INNER COMPASS
• MAKE BETTER CHOICES — The skills to make better life choices more easily and remain confident in those choices
• STAY TRUE TO SELF — The ability to stay true to your deeper truths and your life path

How We Navigate Relationships Is Part of Making Changes

We do not live in isolation, and the incredibly small small number of humans that do will in ALL likelihood never read this.  We exist within social structures — families, groups, organizations, cultures, nations, online realities, political frameworks, …. When we begin to make a change, all of our relationships influence us to a high degree.  Most of you have heard sayings along the line of, “We are who we hang out with”.

When we want to be successful in making most changes, we have to account for and manage the influences from our relationships.

One of the most influential type of relationship is our significant other.  Most of what I offer with Grow Big Love is within the relationship of a significant other.  My articles and partnership work relates to our social interactions to a large degree.

Grow Big Love is about loving and being loved, and does not necessarily mean a romantic love.

Cultivating A Sacred Passionate Partnership

Imagine a partnership that sustains and deepens an experience of being deeply in love, feeling more physical and emotional desire than the beginning of the relationship, waking up each morning with delight at the prospect of another day with your beloved, and having the same passion for each other decades later. 

In this partnership, each is willing to work through challenges and prioritize their partner’s health, well-being, wants, and needs.

This is not depicted in the fairy tales of “happily ever after” because it is based on a different foundation — a foundation with each partner knowing and expressing their LIVING PURPOSE.  Together they uncover the partnership’s Living Purpose that transcends their individual lives. Additionally, they use the partnership as a vehicle for healing, growth, and evolution.

What emerges from this deep well of purposeful partnership is BIG LOVE. However, it requires growth, cultivation, nurturing, and care throughout its life, similar to a garden. When nurtured properly, this kind of partnership inspires many and ignites hope that something truly exists beyond the confines of our fairy tales, movies, books, and most stories.

You Are NOT Broken, And There Is Nothing Wrong Within YOU

Throughout my work, there’s a fundamental difference in how I approach healing, growth, and transformation compared to most other modalities, approaches, and practitioners. This difference enables healing, growth, and transformation that would otherwise be improbable or even impossible.

I do not add something to you, do something to you, program you, motivate you, or psyche you up. And I definitely do NOT fix you. You are NOT broken! You are far from broken.

 I acknowledge that your behavioral, emotional, and thinking patterns may be wreaking havoc in various areas of your life. However, these patterns are NOT YOU, but merely symptoms of:

• Not aligning with your core, your essence
• Not accepting yourself, not loving yourself
• Other modalities or practitioners that have had you program over you and the innate power and wisdom of your body and psyche
• Not accepting your sensations and emotions and/or attempting to control or get rid of certain feelings
• Giving your inner authority to others
• Not knowing or expressing your Living Purpose

Highly Effective Change

Have you attended multiple seminars, workshops, and coaching sessions, yet still haven’t achieved the desired change?

Have you wondered why some individuals (uncommon) are able to make significant changes, while most people experience only incremental improvements? Is big change, transformative change, truly achievable?

I know it is possible, although not through the conventional approaches that are often employed.

Beyond Coaching

Coaching is great.  And I offer some of what good coaches do — a support system to make and integrate changes in your life.  However, that is where the similarities end.

Beyond Life Hacks

Life hacks are fantastic because they offer shortcuts to accomplish tasks more efficiently, swiftly, or even better. However, when it comes to our lives — an intricate nature of our existence — making big lasting change requires far more than occasional life hacks.

We are far more effective when we adopt an approach that accounts for the complexities of our human nature and provides support to make and integrate those changes.

Beyond Knowledge – go from “knowing” to “knowing how”

The Way of the MAGI transcends being a mere buffet of personal growth modalities. While I could provide such a buffet, it would fall far short of the potential achieved through an integrative system and approach.

I offer actionable knowledge through education and training, ensuring that the information you acquire empowers you to take action, rather than merely possessing knowledge that remains unused.

Way of the MAGI is life approach that uses highly effective strategies to swiftly make any change with long-lasting meaningful results.  Changes can be either internal (beliefs, personality, behaviors), or external (changing something in your environment such as how much money you make, where you live, your business/job, relationships).